Sexual abuse in men

We need to reach a point in our society when we can talk about sexual abuse without any hesitation. Men and women both face sexual abuse but are hesitant to speak up about it.

According to one statistic at least 1 in 6 men have experienced some sort of sexual abuse or assault, whether in childhood or as adults. The real number is likely much higher. Coming from a man, maybe we feel ashamed to bring it up because it will knock down our masculinity.

A lot of times it happens when we are very young, and our inner children hide it from us to keep us safe. Our daily lives none the less are affected by it as it did in fact happen to us.

I recently remembered an instance which happened when I was very young, maybe 5-7 years old or younger. I recall being in some sort of an amusement park hanging by a ledge looking at a ride when some man came behind me and dry humped me for a few minutes, clearly enjoyed himself and walked away. I don’t know why I didn’t say or do anything at the time. I feel that maybe I wasn’t clearly conscious, my body checked out and didn’t really know what was going on. I don’t even remember talking to my parents about it.

My inner children held on to it and it only came to light when until I started my own healing.

Even at this age when it came to my memory, it took me a while to bring it up with my wife. Even though we share everything about our lives openly. The point is that even though I have been with her for 13 years it was not easy to discuss it with her.

If you’ve experienced this, allow yourself to feel your emotions and be open to talking about any abuse that you have faced. These memories stay latched on to our soul dragging you down.

I remember feeling a weight fall off my shoulders when I opened up about it. Also, when you talk about these things, your inner children see that you are there for them and they can rely on you to protect them because they are somewhere inside you - wounded, traumatized, alone. It also helps you form a deeper connection to yourself.

Remember that you have a limited time on this Earth, and all pain needs to be cleared because it stops you from being the best version of yourself.

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