Most men often feel stuck having to pick between their mother and their partner/spouse

When men are in relationships, they often feel the pressure of having to choose between their mother and their partner/spouse. Unfortunately, this issue is very common in almost every culture around the world, some more than others.

Having your mother and partner share a good relationship is a rarity, but even in those situations’ conflicts can arise.

The story of this is all the same. It results in picking a side and the one who isn’t “chosen” often feels abandoned. Going back and forth between the two sides, men end up losing this battle within themselves, feeling defeated. Regardless of how he chooses to proceed, he will make one person unhappy.

Some also carry the guilt of not being able to stand up for their partner/spouse in front of their mother and vice versa.

So, what should one do in this scenario? Who should you pick – your partner/spouse or your mother?

The answer is neither. You must pick yourself first and foremost. In doing so, you are choosing to love yourself. You are under no obligation to anyone, and nobody on Earth has any authority over you.

Only when you choose yourself, can you truly fulfill your role in all other areas of your life, be it husband, father or son. The more you heal yourself, the more you are able to carry the strength of the Divine Masculine.

As the Divine Masculine, your role is to protect your Divine Feminine counterpart. To be their container of support. But it is important to recognize that this doesn’t mean you are choosing your partner/spouse.

In the end, you are choosing yourself and in doing so, choosing to embody the energy of your role on this Earth. This is the only way we will once again be able to achieve harmony and balance.